We’ve been sent a lovely letter from someone who thought this story might be of some comfort to Reeva’s parents:
To Reeva’s parents,
I hope the Steenkamp family get to read these posts, because this one is for them.
I know that no-one deserves to bury a child, and that to be in that position is one of the most devastating and painful that a parent can experience. However, if we cling to our grief with unforgiveness and revenge, we are doing irretrievable harm to our own physical health and spiritual peace. The only way to begin to heal is to let go of revengeful hatred and to forgive, regardless of the circumstances. The following account illustrates this truth.
A Utah dad’s inspiring words are going viral in the midst of a devastating loss. After his son Simon Olsen and his girlfriend, Hailie Godfrey, both 18, were killed in a head-on collision, Lane Olsen took to Facebook to express his grief over his loss. But he also had some surprising words for the driver of the car that killed the teens, Tanner Evans, who walked away from the crash with injuries that are not life-threatening.
Olsen’s Facebook post has since been shared nearly 3,000 times since it was posted. It reads:
Today has been the worst day of my life! No parent should have to bury their child.
As a family our hearts go out to Tanner Evans, who was the driver that killed my son Simon and his girlfriend Hailie.
What is crazy about this accident is that we know their family very well, his father was my Assistant basketball coach for AAU, we coached together for 5 years and former bishop. Tanners older son played on the High School team with my son Chandler and they were best friends.
With Tanner coming home last week from his mission we can’t imagine the guilt and pain he is feeling. We hold no hard feelings and we love that family!
I spoke to his father Matt, and he says that he is devastated and their family is feeling the same pain and sadness.
I am so proud of my children. When my son Chandler Olsen found out who the driver was, he wanted to drive over and tell the family that we forgive them and have no hard feelings. My daughter Lexi Sparks posted on her FB wall to pray for him and his family. Gehrig Olsen is not angry either.
This is what Simon would of wanted, he loved everyone and would want everyone to be laughing and have no anger.
I’m sure Simon would say “Guys relax I will you see all very soon, I’m skydiving in Heaven and practicing my basketball skills”
I’m humbled by the power of forgiveness for this is the only way to heal and move forward.