Don’t think these years have been wasted. As terrible as they must have been they will enrich your future understanding of life and people’s needs in general. You inspired people before and you will inspire people all the more in the future. You faced a situation which would have destroyed many others. You are deeply courageous and have walked through that valley of the shadow of death. That’s where the biggest revelations take place. It won’t be your best birthday. But there will be many more wonderful ones ahead.